As I did my usual morning ritual of reading Fashionbombaily.com, I came across an article on Lupita Nyong’o. She is the lovely actress made famous for her portrayal of Patsy in the recent movie, 12 Years A Slave. The article was about the speech she made at the Essence Magazine’s 7th Annual Women in Hollywood luncheon (Essence Magazine is an American mag for women of colour).Her speech began with a letter she had received from a young fan who was going to try Dencia’s Whitenicious cream but changed her mind after seeing pictures of Lupita and realising that there was nothing wrong with her complexion.
Lupita went on to talk about her struggle and desire for lighter skin when she was younger. Then Alek Wek became famous, and Lupita says, “My complexion had always been an obstacle to overcome. And all of a sudden, Oprah was telling me that it wasn’t. It was perplexing. And I wanted to reject it because I had come to enjoy the seduction of inadequacy.”
Reading these words, touched the very core my soul, as I too have struggled with my complexion. Dencia actually started following me on Instagram, commenting on my pics about the cream, and I had to go and see the results for myself. I admit, than in the past I have tried a cream to make my skin a little lighter, due to my own insecurities and personal conflictions. I was in an abusive relationship a few years ago, and I remember one conversation we had where he mentioned that his grandmother thought I was ‘too dark.’ He also commented on a number of occasions on the deepness of my complexion, and often said that I was probably the darkest lady he’d ever been with. Members of his family would say things like, ‘oh you’re pretty for a dark skinned girl,’ and on top of everything else that was going on, that just added to the stresses of that relationship. Then there are the subtle and not-so-subtle jokes within the black community about our varying complexion shades. The constant glorification of mixed race or light skinned ladies, with the assumption that light skin = beauty. It’s sad that most of the complexion related comments come from black people, from within our own community.
I met this man that said my skin was beautiful, and I didn’t believe him, I just thought it was a way to get to me, but now I know I am, and no longer require external validation for an internal reality. (but of course, I still love the compliments!)
For any ladies, and gentlemen who are struggling with this, you have to decide that no matter what others might say, you are beautiful, and that goes beyond skin tone. Whilst, prejudices surrounding skin tones may exist, it’s up to you to believe in your own beauty. Light, medium, dark…embrace the skin you were in and don’t let it limit you.
You are the most beautiful, when you are yourself…as you were created perfect in His image.
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While at Bethel School of Supernatural Ministry, (Bethel Church, Redding, California, USA) we had Relationship. It was an intense and emotional week, but I also learnt many things about myself, and the relationships I have had.
One of the things that we were asked to do was to write a letter from God to yourself about your future spouse. This was not an out of the ordinary request, as we often had prophetic assignments like this during our school year.
Today, I was looking through my school folder, and my letter dropped out. I haven’t actually read it since the day I wrote it in November 2011.
Here it is:
Dear Rachel, The man that I have for you, is more amazing that what you have thought about in your own mind. You will be able to see Me in them; everyday, even in the not-so-good times. In fact, in those times, then you will see why I prepared him for you. He will be more loving than any other man has been towards you in the past, even more loving than your dad.
First and foremost, he loves Me and knows my heart and therefore he will protect your heart as if it was his own. He will love your body, everything about it will excite him, and he will enjoy every curve and texture. He will be honouring to you, and protect your honour at all times.
He will support your ministry, and champion you as you pursue your passions. In fact, he will be key in helping your dreams to come true. Not just for you, but also for your children.
We ran out of time at that point, but this letter still resonates with me today. I still need and want those things that I wrote on that day, and I believe in a good Father who not only takes care of our wants, but also our needs.
What does it look like to live the abundant life?
What does it mean to really have more than you need? T
hese are promises that God has given us and He never goes back on His word. He desires that we are complete and fulfilled…with more than enough.
On this Valentine’s Day, I submit to you that it’s ok to dream with God. Find out what He wants for your future. I guarantee that it’ll be better than what you think.
Love always, Rach xx
MDMFLOW LIPSTICK by FlORENCE ADEPOJU
The late 90’s and early 2000’s have made a comeback multiple times in fashion this past year—as the flashy and vibrancy of the hip hop culture made a mark, transcending generations. The development of the lipstick line, MDM Flow, is a clash of the “mid 90’s and 00’s hip hop culture.” 22-year-old, Florence Adepoju, scientist with a BSc (Hons) in Cosmetic Science from the London College of Fashion is recreating color technology through the development of her lipsticks, representing her “lifestyles and ideals.” The lipstick line is an accumulation of all things flashy and going beyond the lipstick palette of a MAC or Sephora.
Check out #mdmflow aka Florence Adepoju!
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#iAmPowerful The Podcast By Rachel-Yvonne
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Stop comparing yourself to others. It’s silly. When you open up a box of pizza, it doesn’t matter which slice has more or less toppings, or which is bigger than the other, it’s pizza. Pizza is pizza. Pizza is delicious. You’re delicious.
This is the most uplifting thing I have read all day
"I need you, and no-one else will do." Something I wanna say to my Love…whoever he is.